Why is it that people respond to me in a certain way?
When you find yourself with someone, remember, you’re in “their environment.” They see you as an actor in their play.
You've probably heard that our brains are "plastic," which means that we adapt to our environments and the people in them. Paying attenion to our enviornments, or “noticing,” tends to help us avoid misplacing things… like keys. We’ve learned that people find lost objects better, because we remember both object and context (or place) better than when we recall the object by itself.
Fewer people realize that in addition to adapting to our environments, we also adapt to our own thoughts, especially about what is possible. When we see our role in making things happen, they are more likely to happen.